Philosophy!

On page 152, Jake says "you had to be in love with a woman to have a basis of a friendship". I found this strange because I believe the complete opposite. I always think that a friendship is the basis to a relationship. In my Jesus and Relationships class, we learned that love grows from friendship, too. I do not agree with Jake at all because I think he is reallly wrong. Also, I think this 'philosophy' is what is making things worse for him and all of the other men in the story. By having a romantic relationship first with Brett, every single one of them besides Jake cannot be friends with her. I think this is saying something. In addtion, even Jake is having trouble being her friend because he still loves her. This way of thinking is just causing them a lot of problems. Without friendship, I believe a relationship can not last at all.